Juma Felix via email.

EXPERT ADVICE

Maurice Matheka, a relationship counsellor answers:

In my opinion, insecurities are at times our way of protecting ourselves but also, insecurity can crush a relationship in its infancy. What I suggest is that you keep the door open for those men but don’t assume by some magic that that trustworthy guy will turn up just like that. It is upon you to filter the men that approach you by owning part of the courtship process. As a woman you need to ask the vital questions that reflect the expectations you have towards a man in a relationship with you. It’s the only way to filter the good from the rubbish.

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NEXT WEEK’S DILEMMA

Hi Maurice. I introduced my best friend to a guy five months ago. The worst part is that this guy is married and his wife is due to give birth in some weeks. My girlfriend doesn’t know any of this. I know all of this don’t want to shatter her because for the last few months, this guy has been her world. I have tried to convince him to tell my friend the truth or else I will do it, but he has pleaded with me not to. She is my friend and I feel guilty about this whole mess. Should I go ahead and tell my friend the truth?

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