In Summary
  • Around June of the same year, a cousin of mine happened to have fallen sick and was admitted at Kenyatta National Hospital.
  • One day, my girlfriend and I went there to check on the patient.
  • As we left, I suggested that we visit the VCT centre at KNH for screening. She did not object but unfortunately, we were not tested.
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It’s very painful to narrate this story but I will do it as best as I can.

In 2011, I met a beautiful woman and instantly fell in love with her. I still remember clearly that we went out for our first date on the last day of April.

On this day, we talked about several issues including the need to remain pure even as we looked forward to getting married.

I also suggested to her that we would have to be screened for HIV before we got married. She asked me: "What if one of us turns out positive? "

This question came to me as a surprise. However, I did not give it any further thought and I told her that I would consider terminating the relationship if that was the case.

Around June of the same year, my cousin happened to have fallen sick and was admitted at Kenyatta National Hospital.

One day, my girlfriend and I went there to check on the patient.

As we left, I suggested that we visit the VCT centre at KNH for screening. She did not object but unfortunately, we were not tested. The attendant we found there told us that they have already closed. It was 5.00pm.

TOLD ME SHE KNEW HER STATUS

That was the last time we visited the VCT together. Every time the issue came up in our discussion, she told me that she knew her status and therefore there was no need of visiting the VCT together.

I was not comfortable with this and I kept on reminding her of the need to do the test together. On December 1, of 2011 I decided to do the HIV test alone.

Of course it was something I used to do on every first day of December, the World Aids Day. After testing on that day, I called my girlfriend and reminded her to find time and take the test.

I also informed her that I had been screened and found to be negative. Her response was weird. She told me over the phone that I needed not to worry as they are tested at the work place at least after every three months. She works at one of the most prestigious health facilities in Kenya.

I didn't know whether to believe her or not but by Christmas time of the same year 2011, I had purposed in heart to terminate the relationship.

But even then I couldn't, for I loved her so much, from the bottom of my heart. 

GOT MARRIED

We got married in late February of 2012. Fortunately, she got pregnant on our first night together. 

But things took a twist three months later. I started feeling 'funny' in my body. The sudden rushes on my face were worrying.

I also had some swellings on my body. I discussed these issues with my wife but she didn't take it seriously, remarking one day in jest that I was suffering from late puberty.

Of course I was worried and called a friend of mine who is a doctor and explained what I was going through. After a long chat over the phone, he invited me over to his clinic.

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