In Summary

  • Since I left him, his parents have become cold towards us and never bother to check on us, which is straining my relationship with my sons’ father. I don’t understand what their problem is because I did nothing  wrong by moving out for the sake of my sanity.
  • They have never reached out to me to know why I left —  almost three years ago — and when I tried to reach out to them, they gave me the cold shoulder, so I decided to keep off.
  • However, they have talked ill of me, making me very bitter about having been  part of their lives. Yet I know my sons will always carry their blood.

Dear Sir,

I am a mother of two boys. When I had the first-born, I was living with their father but he was an alcoholic,  and despite all the  support I gave him, we kept going through  the alcoholism  cycle. It was so emotionally stressing  that  I eventually moved out.  But despite his drinking, he never hit or verbally insulted me, for which I am grateful.

He is basically a good person, which is what kept our relationship going, leading to the conception of our second child. He sought help by going into rehab but since we do not live together,  I cannot vouch for his staying sober. 

He  comes to visit the children regularly and we spend time together. However,  he has not been able to get a job since  losing  his last one.  I am fine with our current co-parenting arrangements. 

Since I left him, his parents have become cold towards us and never bother to check on us, which is straining my relationship with my sons’ father. I don’t understand what their problem is because I did nothing  wrong by moving out for the sake of my sanity. They have never reached out to me to know why I left —  almost three years ago — and when I tried to reach out to them, they gave me the cold shoulder, so I decided to keep off. However, they have talked ill of me, making me very bitter about having been  part of their lives. Yet I know my sons will always carry their blood.

I love the father of my children but I do not wish to be part of a family that has disowned me and my sons.  I want to move on but I have no complaint against my sons’ father, apart from his drinking, and I am not sure that he is on his way to being sober.  The most painful thing is the way  his parents  have treated us.

Please help.

 

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