In Summary
  • You feel like you’re always giving in. Somehow your goals and interests no longer match.
  • You feel lonely, and have started wishing you were with someone else.
  • Discuss your life together with your partner and see if there’s still common ground. Because if there isn’t, divorce is likely.

Divorce creeps up on you. Your relationship declines and frustration, resentment and detachment build.

So regardless of what’s going wrong, it’s important to be able to recognise the signs of an impending divorce. Then you can start to take action.

One of the first predictors is sarcasm, criticism and rudeness. OK, maybe you’re both naturally sarcastic. But once sarcasm becomes real rudeness, then there’s deep unhappiness in the relationship.

Gradually, rudeness leads to shouting, defensiveness and withdrawal. Now you’re close to the point of no return. You can’t make decisions together any more. Or work as a team.

You feel like you’re always giving in. Somehow your goals and interests no longer match.

You feel lonely, and have started wishing you were with someone else.

Discuss your life together with your partner and see if there’s still common ground. Because if there isn’t, divorce is likely.

Perhaps you’re getting a lot of negativity from your partner? Or one of you thinks that the other’s beneath them? You’re playing tit-for-tat and keeping score, so that your focus is on mind games and winning? Instead of love, communication and forgiveness.

You’ve lost interest each other’s feelings. Words like ‘whatever’ and ‘fine’ pepper your arguments. You hardly ever have sex any more. One of you’s spending most of their time outside the marriage.

At work, in other relationships, and interests that no longer involve you both. The process of detachment’s started.

Page 1 of 2