In Summary
  • Now, to be fair, parenting is hard. It literally takes a village to raise a child.
  • The child who grows up with more than one adult in the home is likely to have access to more resources like time and money and is thus likely to have a smoother start to life. I get the moral police’s need to push for marriage before motherhood.
  • A little. That said, I think that blaming the women who are doing all they can to raise their offspring for all our problems as a society is counterproductive.

Two weeks ago, Tanzanian actress Elizabeth Michael was jailed for two years for the death of a fellow actor Stephen Kanumba who died in 2012.

A few days later, I heard a woman remark that the rising rate of single motherhood was to blame for situations such as Michael’s. Just days before, I’d heard a man suggest that if women stopped having sex with men who leave, crime rates would go down.

Single mothers have become easy targets. They have been blamed for rising levels of moral decadence, the growing rate of crime, murder rates, drought… name it. We heap the blame on the marital status of mothers or women’s lack of reluctance to get married.

Now, to be fair, parenting is hard. It literally takes a village to raise a child. The child who grows up with more than one adult in the home is likely to have access to more resources like time and money and is thus likely to have a smoother start to life. I get the moral police’s need to push for marriage before motherhood.

A little. That said, I think that blaming the women who are doing all they can to raise their offspring for all our problems as a society is counterproductive.

First, that assumption that if a woman is a single mother then she must have had casual, reckless sex is wrong. So is the spite society feels for single mothers who turn down marriage offers. We are oblivious to the fact that loveless marriages occasioned by unplanned pregnancies aren’t any good for the children involved.

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