In Summary

  • From him she learns to love and to be loved. The relationship you had with your father or lack thereof thus plays a huge role in how your love life eventually pans out.
  • Being promiscuous and sexually aggressive may be a sign of liberation in a woman. It may also be a sign that she still has hang-ups from the relationship she shared with her father which lead her to use sex to fill the void that this relationship may have left.
  • Pay attention if you find that you are always seeking to know whether the man in your life still loves you. This is a spillover of the bad impression of men you may have gotten from your relationship with your father.

It has been said that a father is a woman’s first love.

From him she learns to love and to be loved. The relationship you had with your father or lack thereof thus plays a huge role in how your love life eventually pans out.

Sadly, this impact isn’t always recognisable and you may go through life clueless and nursing one heart break after the other. Here are indicators that you may be plagued by daddy issues:

Rebound dating – It is a red flag if you are so terrified of being alone that you usually jump into a new relationship soon after a break-up. This works against your love life as your desire to be with someone outshines any incompatibilities you may have with a new catch or any warning bells that may be going off in your head.

You need to first love yourself and develop your own identity so that you will not feel the need to be part of a relationship. Once you learn to love yourself, you will see that it is alright to remain single until you meet a worthy man.

Only dating older men – Daddy issues may also drive you to subconsciously seek to be adored and protected by older men. These are elements you missed from your father growing up, but you may end up unhappy as this kind of relationship is usually unbalanced. A much older man may also be domineering.
Confused expectations – For women who grew up without a father’s participation, the role of a man in a relationship or at home becomes confusing. This may play out in the form of you constantly seeking out men who are emotionally unavailable or ruining relationships by constantly sending mixed signals to the men in your life.
Sense of self entitlement – This becomes a problem to the woman whose father doted on her and overpraised her. Because of this over-indulgence from the most important man in her life, a woman becomes very hard to please and few men she meets will measure up to these standards. She will want the man she loves wrapped around her little finger.
Extremely mistrustful – A woman abandoned by her father as a child will grow up with serious trust issues. In a relationship she is likely to be overly jealous, clingy and overprotective of her love interest because she is subconsciously afraid that like her father, he will leave. Even when a relationship isn’t healthy, this woman will hold on tightly and when the man feels smothered and finally leaves her, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy and a vicious cycle.
Sexual aggression – Being promiscuous and sexually aggressive may be a sign of liberation in a woman. It may also be a sign that she still has hang-ups from the relationship she shared with her father which lead her to use sex to fill the void that this relationship may have left.

She sees her sexuality as power she can use to gain attention. Sadly, she is likely to end up in bed with men who hurt and disappoint her.

She also won’t figure out where the problem lies, and will continue using her sexuality to nail the next man, thus falling into a cycle of emptiness. This may turn out to be very destructive to her wellbeing.
Constantly questioning him about his feelings for you – Pay attention if you find that you are always seeking to know whether the man in your life still loves you. This is a spillover of the bad impression of men you may have gotten from your relationship with your father. You expect the worst and thus need constant reassurance from your love interest.

Sadly, you can’t change your past but being aware of how influences your choices will definitely guide you in a better direction. Only when you know where you are coming from can you recognise these unfair comparisons you may be making between your father and your love interests.