JUST BRENDA: Is there more to our friendship than she's telling me?

I stopped calling her a few weeks ago and she was very angry about it. PHOTO | FILE

What you need to know:

  • We have been very good friends but it is confusing because it feels like there is something more.
  • I have asked her to be my girlfriend but she told me that she is single and not looking to date.
  • Got a problem to share with Brenda? E-mail: [email protected]

Hi Brenda!

I am 22. There is this woman I have known for three years. We have been very good friends but it is confusing because it feels like there is something more. I have asked her to be my girlfriend but she told me that she is single and not looking to date. I have tried to end things with her so that I can date someone else but she always cries and I end up changing my mind. I stopped calling her a few weeks ago and she was very angry about it. I am worried because I do not know where this ‘relationship’ is headed.

This woman you want to make your girlfriend is manipulative and undecided. She seems not ready for the kind of commitment you are seeking but she probably likes you and wants to keep stringing you along.

You need to put your foot down. Stop acting like her boyfriend, get a life, go out and if you meet a woman who tickles your fancy, date her. Be firmer about your personal boundaries. If you are consistent about it, this woman will eventually stop expecting boyfriend favours from you.

Got a problem to share with Brenda? E-mail: [email protected]