In Summary
  • I'm in a dilemma because she is actually good at her job yet I don't want my husband to stray. 
  • Secondly, it's good that you have pointed out to her that you don't like her wearing short dresses. I acknowledge that this must be distressing for you. 
  • Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? E-mail: [email protected]

Hi Brenda, Thank you for your straightforward answers, I really appreciate them. My problem is about my help. I had to hire a live-in one after I got my baby.

The problem is that she is perfect in every way except that she wears skirts that are too short!

Yes, I have talked to her about it but it only changes for a few days then we go back to the same problem. I'm in a dilemma because she is actually good at her job yet I don't want my husband to stray. 

First, you should consider yourself lucky that the only flaw you have in your househelp is her dressing considering the horror stories out there of nannies gone rogue. 

Secondly, it's good that you have pointed out to her that you don't like her wearing short dresses. I acknowledge that this must be distressing for you. 

You will need to be firm with her about this and follow up with action each time your rule is disobeyed. Buy her clothes or a lesso if you have to. 

Now, about your husband. Using the word stray almost equates him to an animal that you are trying to domesticate. Unless you have reason to believe otherwise, give him the benefit of doubt. 

Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? E-mail: [email protected]