In Summary
  • People go to church not for anything else, but to find meaning in life and to get answers to their life issues.
  • It is easier and preferable to pull a woman through a divorce than bury her (and her children) after her husband has murdered them.

Marriage is an institution under siege. That is why today I want to ask an important question: Where is the church in all this?

The last place of refuge for every battered wife is the church.

After turning to the parents, in-laws and friends, women often go to church to pour their hearts out to their pastors, bishops and other church leaders and to ask them to pray for a “breakthrough” in their marriages.

Church leaders, in their wisdom, pray with the woman, offer her counselling and implore her to “hang in there” because the Lord is on his way to heal her marriage.

A few years down the line, relatives bury the woman after her husband finally clobbers her to death.

ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS
I think it is important for us to bare the unpopular facts. The church has lost its prophetic voice.

The church is losing its grip in the society by continually encouraging men and women to stay in abusive marriages instead of telling them the truth — get a divorce.

It is time for the church to start advocating, encouraging and initiating divorce, particularly among members of their congregations who are trapped in abusive marriages.

It is easier and preferable to pull a woman through a divorce than bury her (and her children) after her husband has murdered them. The same goes for men.

GLORIFICATION
The times we are living in are very different from the days when the Old and New testament were written and handed down to us.

We are living in a time when you can catch a bad disease in a matter of minutes — including those that have the potential to wipe out entire families.

People go to church not for anything else, but to find meaning in life and to get answers to their life issues.

If the church remains tone-deaf and irrelevant as it is slowly becoming, then we can never sort out the issues that we keep reporting about in the media.

I am growing increasingly tired of the church over-glamourising marriage and not telling young people that not all marriages are made in heaven.

Some are made in hell. I am tired of churches presenting couples who have been married for 50 years to act as the barometer for a good marriage, without asking the two the tough questions.

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