In Summary
  • I don’t know if this is normal, or if I have fallen out of love with him. Is my relationship unsalvageable? Should I stay and work on it?
  • If so, how can we progress and bring back those old feelings? Please advice.

Q: I am 35 and I have been married for five years. In the beginning, the marriage was full of excitement and new things. Lately though, it has become really boring. Every day feels the same. Sex has become just another chore rather than something I look forward to. I don’t know if this is normal, or if I have fallen out of love with him. Is my relationship unsalvageable? Should I stay and work on it? If so, how can we progress and bring back those old feelings? Please advice.

READERS’ ADVICE:

Do the small, simple things you used to do when you dated, like holding hands, making your spouse a cup of coffee, or complimenting each other. Don’t let the security of marriage cause you to stop investing in the relationship. Small acts can add up big. John Kings

 

The biggest sign that your marriage has lost spark is when communication fails. So first work on communication. Find more time for you and your husband. A man’s biggest need is respect so make sure you respect your husband. Sex is a very important part of a healthy relationship. It keeps you close, intimate and playful. Make it fun rather than being a chore and remember how much time and effort you put in it to please your partner when you first met. Be a wise wife.Good luck. Sarah K Jane

 

The reason your marriage is boring is because you focused too much on the excitement. What you need to do is to love your partner just the way he is, try something new that you’ve never tried with him, visit new places, go for picnics and focus on your intimate moments as well. That’s how you can get the spark back in your marriage. Mwenja Kiha Joseph

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