Good sex is essential to a good relationship. So if you can’t get it right, it’s time to go.

You and your partner need to be able to discuss getting married and having kids at some point. Without ultimatums, drama or sulking. And if you’re simply not on the same page? That’s a showstopper. And better to know sooner than later.

You have to be able to discuss anything that’s important to you. So don’t tolerate a partner who shuts down every time you try, no matter how diplomatically you raise the subject.

All couples get mad sometimes. But if your partner’s forever focusing their anger on you, then that isn’t normal. There’ll be times when your friends and family push your partner’s buttons. But if they’re forever angry about your family and friends, you’re in trouble. At best you’ll be forever walking on eggshells. At worst, you could get hurt.

In good relationships you support each other’s dreams and ambitions. So don’t put up with someone who doesn’t have your back. Whether they actively discourage you from achieving your goals, or don’t show any interest in celebrating your successes.

So as your relationship develops, be on the lookout for no-go behaviours like these. And if they can’t be fixed, bail out.


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