In Summary
  • Continual cheating’s also completely unacceptable.
  • It’s possible to work through an infidelity and come out stronger than before. Once.
  • But don’t put up with continual cheating. Continual cheating’s never ‘normal.’

It’s hard to know what’s normal in a relationship. Especially if you haven’t had many before, making most of your ideas about relationships come from novels, films and the internet. This tend to play up the drama. Some healthy relationships are intense and argumentative, it’s true. But there are still some things you should never put up with.

So don’t overlook bad behaviour, however much you want to be with your new partner. Because if their behaviour doesn’t improve after you’ve talked things through together, then it probably never will. And life will gradually become miserable.

Like lying. Openness and honesty are the essential foundation of trust in a relationship. So if you’re with a habitual liar, you’ll never feel truly secure together.

Continual cheating’s also completely unacceptable. It’s possible to work through an infidelity and come out stronger than before. Once. But don’t put up with continual cheating. Continual cheating’s never ‘normal.’ So don’t accept it in your relationship.

Emotional abuse is also not normal. So don’t tolerate a partner who tries to control you, puts you down, repeatedly threatens to break up with you, threatens to kill themselves if you leave, blames you for their problems, or just makes you feel bad.

It’s good to help one another out. Like picking up each other’s groceries on the way home. But don’t put up with a partner who constantly expects you to do everything, or who’s forever quitting their job because they know you’ll foot the bills.

Chronic bad sex is also not normal. It could be there’s no chemistry between you, or you’re with a selfish partner who doesn’t care about your pleasure.

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