In Summary
  • Now, more than ever, women are taking up executive positions at workplaces and running remarkable businesses.
  • For Nyakio, she decided that she would rather stay single than have to support a man or date a man who is still struggling financially.

When the census report 2019 came out this week, one of the shockers was that the disparity between men and women was minimal.

There are 23.5 males and 24 million females, which is a difference of just half a million.

For the longest time, self-certified historians had it that the ratio of men to women was 1 to 3.

It, therefore, went without saying that men should have more than one woman to set the balance.

Polygamy was justified using the figures. Women are supposed to understand when he brings another woman home or beds the girl next door because women are everywhere.

Now, the judgment is out. The street ratios are off and hopefully, this is the last we hear of the justification.

DATING AVENUES

If the numbers are to be believed, most women should be able to comfortably find a mate, right? The reality is different.

Many women today decry the lack of enough grooms to date and walk them down the aisle.

Why is there a dating crisis then? Why are some men still able to get more than their fair share of females?

Is it that the meeting places have narrowed? Actually, it's the opposite. It's the era of online dating and social media.

Unlike before, one can meet a potential mate in seconds and they could be anywhere in the world.

Moreover, the dating platforms have perfected the art of matchmaking to reduce the misses.

'There aren't enough "economically attractive" men — ones with a good income and a stable job — for single women to marry,' reports a new study.

FINANCIAL STABILITY

The study, published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, says that women still want what their great grandmothers wanted — security — and in today's era, that means money.

"Economic stability is a key to a stable family life — to getting married, staying married, and marrying well," he says.

"Physical attractiveness may provide an initial filter that draws our attention, but economic considerations and shared values matter much more in the long term. A good job attracts and retains suitable marital partners. And this is true for both men and women," writes the lead author, Daniel T. Lichter, a professor at Cornell University.

Antonia Nyakio is 31 years old and has been single for the last two years. The banker says finance is a priority in a potential mate.

Her ex was broke, and she swears she learnt a big lesson. Never again.

"I would foot most of my ex's expenses and he would spend part of his school holidays at my place. He was a student, jobless and I was working. He was also slightly older. After three years of dating, he came to my house one particular evening and said that he was calling it quits," she offers.

EMPOWERMENT

That was her turning point. She decided that she would rather stay single than have to support a man or date a man who is still struggling financially.

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