In Summary
  • He no longer wants to talk to me and he has been avoiding intimacy.
  • He has completely changed and is no longer the loving boyfriend he was.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year, and he has already introduced me to his family. However, I had to travel for two months for a job assignment but on coming back, I noticed he was acting in a weird way.

He no longer wants to talk to me and he has been avoiding intimacy.

He has completely changed and is no longer the loving boyfriend he was.

When I enquire on what the problem might be, he says there is something bothering him, and that he needs space.

What should I do? Do you think he is seeing another woman?

 

READERS’ ADVICE

Often, when a man tells a woman he needs space, he's saying that he wants to walk out of the relationship.

A request from a man for space usually doesn’t mean that he needs to be alone so that he can be a better person … and thus a better partner to you.

It means he most likely doesn’t want to be your boyfriend anymore, but he’s so worried about hurting your feelings. Smell the coffee and move on with your life. Ian Njeru, via mail

 

He could be having a genuine reason. Perhaps he's going through a tough time. Just leave him in his own bubble to figure it out.

Believe him, and let him have the space he’s looking for. If you do that, he will be able to concentrate and solve whatever’s bothering him. Don't try to draw him back to you. Don’t text or call him or stalk him on social media.

James Nick, via mail

 

Give him the space he asked for and assume nothing has happened.

With all your extra time now that you won’t be visiting each other, work on yourself by doing what makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

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