In Summary
  • I’m happy in our relationship but my concern is his extroverted nature.
  • I feel he is too free with my girlfriends.
  • Sometimes he hugs them and his hand lingers on their shoulders or he holds their hands when we are talking.

I met this man in a work symposium about six months ago, and I’m excited about the direction my newfound love is taking.

Initially, we used to discuss work-related issues as we are in similar departments in our various organisations until he asked me out.

I’m happy in our relationship but my concern is his extroverted nature. I feel he is too free with my girlfriends. Sometimes he hugs them and his hand lingers on their shoulders or he holds their hands when we are talking.

I raised my concern but he says he is not interested in them and that he only likes them as my friends. How can I make him draw the boundaries without appearing insecure?

 

READERS’ ADVICE

I can tell that you feel so insecure when your new catch hugs your girlfriends. You fear that he will be snatched by the girls. It is common. You must, however, learn to trust your man. There are things you can never change in a man. This may be his way of doing things, and you may start having confrontations out of the same. Let your man enjoy his circle of friends, but mention to him the need to draw boundaries.

Calvin Queens, via mail

If the guy was seriously in love with you, he should have let that behaviour go since you had registered your reservations over it. It's imperative that you let him go because with time, the said "friendship" he is pegging his actions on might blossom into something that might leave you in an awkward situation.

Andrew Kiriago, via mail

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