In Summary
  • And what of men and women who are unhappy with the sizes of their tummies?
  • They are quite a number out there. They by all means want their tummies flat.

The one common reason why men and women are not enjoying intimacy is lack of love for their bodies.

For you to feel fanciable, you must first accept, appreciate and love your body. This, however, is not always the case.

Take the case of Cathy. She has pimples on her face. She has unsuccessfully tried everything to clear them.

Occasionally she pops them, leaving her skin damaged. She hates looking at herself in the mirror. It depresses her. She wishes her face was smooth like her friends’. For Mary, it is the size of her breasts. She feels they are too big.

“They are like sacks of potatoes hanging on a stick!” she describes them figuratively.

She wishes she could do plastic surgery to reduce them. She has tried tight bras but they only worsen her shape.

She hates her body. For James, it’s the size of his chest and muscles.

He feels he is not muscular like other men. He has been taking steroids and lifting weights ‘to look like other men’.

And what of men and women who are unhappy with the sizes of their tummies?

They are quite a number out there. They by all means want their tummies flat.
“I do 20 sit-ups every morning and evening to deflate this tummy,” says Joyce, “but the more I do them, the more it protrudes.”

Jane uses a cosset around her tummy with the hope that it will flatten it.

She has done this over the last eight months but nothing seems to change. She hates the shape and size of her tummy. She wishes she could exchange it for her sister’s.

Her mother always reminded her of the tummy when she was young, and sometimes said she looked pregnant!

For Tom, it’s the head. The shape and size of his head has always bothered him.

Comments and insults by his siblings and friends do not make things any better. They have even nicknamed him ‘Head office” . In sexology, the feeling of unhappiness with one part of the body is called body dysphoria.

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