Abuse is often specific to a couple, and will end with the relationship.
So you’re not bad people. But you do need to get help and figure out what was going on.
You rarely know exactly when you’re sure you want to break up with your date. The idea takes shape gradually, until it seems to have always been there.
By then, you wish you’d taken the decision earlier, and not wasted so much time! Because even the pain of breaking up is nothing compared to being in a relationship that just isn’t working. So how can you see the end coming sooner?
Maybe the thought of leaving is triggered by the realisation that you’re being abused, or any sort of violence. Or something more subtle, like endless corrosive comments. Or maybe it’s you who wants to hurt your partner. You can’t stop attacking their self-esteem, or even raising a hand to them.
Abuse is often specific to a couple, and will end with the relationship. So you’re not bad people. But you do need to get help and figure out what was going on.
Perhaps you don’t trust your date to be faithful. If there’s even a tiny doubt in your mind, you need to move on. Of course, your partner might be blameless, and it’s you with the trust issue.
Get help to figure all that out before starting a new relationship.
THE BREAK UP