- At his age, he had never brought a girlfriend home and his family was getting impatient with him.
- His mother had threatened to arrange a marriage for him if he was unable to get a partner.
- It is out of this pressure that Cedrick decided to bring his partner home.
They say you remain your mum’s baby forever irrespective of age.
I was therefore not surprised when Mary walked into the consultation room at the Sexology clinic with her 30-year-old son and declared that she had brought her child for treatment.
“If you can treat my child I will pay you anything you want,” she said, “my pressure has skyrocketed to very high levels in the last one week, and my diabetes is getting out of control because of this child.”
I nodded with understanding as I turned my attention to Cedrick to find out what his problem was.
“I have no problem,” he said, “you just need to talk to mum who seems to be getting sick because of my partner. I think it’s the mother in-law’s jealousy.”
“How can you say that? This child is for sure out to ensure that I die of stress,” Mary shouted. She then broke down and cried emotionally.
I decided to medically interview Cedrick by asking direct questions.
Cedrick, an actor, was the only boy in his family. He had two sisters. He was a drama teacher in a theatre college.
At his age, he had never brought a girlfriend home and his family was getting impatient with him.
His mother had threatened to arrange a marriage for him if he was unable to get a partner. It is out of this pressure that Cedrick decided to bring his partner home.
“Can you imagine he brought a fellow man home and introduced him as the partner he was planning to marry?” the mother interjected, “Don’t you see what I mean when I say my child needs treatment? He is sick, very sick in the head!”
Cedrick was gay. He had been in a relationship with his male friend for over five years.
They kept the relationship a secret over homosexuality-related stigma.
I did a sexual orientation test on Cedrick and he was a pure homosexual, fully sexually attracted to the same sex and with zero feelings for the opposite sex.
In some cases we find homosexuals who have some feelings for the opposite sex.
In fact there are people who identify as heterosexual but have sexual feelings for people of the same sex.
Suffice it to say that sexual orientation is a spectrum and in many cases things are really never black and white. As they say there are many shades of grey.
“You should tell mum that there are many people out there who are like me, that I am not weird and that I need no treatment!” Cedrick interjected.