In Summary
  • I wanted to kick myself for allowing a small problem to get out of hand and become this expensive.
  • That, dear friends, is the problem with neglect.
  • It compounds everything and eventually, becomes very expensive to deal with.
  • So why do we do it?

It was a small tear on the sofa. At first it was barely noticeable. Perhaps someone sat on it with keys or some other sharp object in their pocket, causing the tear.

The first time I noticed it, I said to myself, “I really must do something about it.” At the time, doing ‘something’ consisted of using some superglue and a needle and thread to repair the tear. Problem is, I never did get round to doing anything to that seat.

Over time, the tear grew larger as more people sat on it until it was an unsightly, gaping cut. As we speak, I have commissioned a fundi to upholster the entire seat. When he gave me the quotation, I felt faint.

I wanted to kick myself for allowing a small problem to get out of hand and become this expensive.

That, dear friends, is the problem with neglect.

It compounds everything and eventually, becomes very expensive to deal with. So why do we do it? We probably view our neglect as a small matter that we will get around to eventually.

We haven’t yet understood how a small unresolved issue can deteriorate to alarming proportions.

In the final analysis, neglect looks like a wasted life, poor health, financial ruin and broken relationships.

NEVER BEGUN LIKE THAT

Yet it never begun like that. It started off as daily habits of procrastination, poor choices in diet, exercise, overspending and lack of communication.

We figure we have time and will fix things in the future. Neglect in relationships is epitomised in the story of the following busy dad.

His young son asked him if he could come out to play ball. The father replied, “I’m too busy now, I’ll do it when I finish this project.”

Sadly, every project was replaced by another, and the years went by and the young man grew up, having learnt to deal with his father’s inability to make time for him.

Eventually the boy became a man, found a job and had a family of his own. His now old and ailing father asked him, “Son, when are you going to come see me?” The young man replied, “It’s really not a good time right now dad. You see I have this project I have to finish.”

The father realised too late, that the price of neglecting our relationships was compounded in the future.

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