Atenyi K Kwalove, via Facebook.
You should settle with the one who loves you, not the one you love. When you commit yourrself to one you love and that person doesn’t love you, they will only end up misusing and finally dump you. Otherwise when it comes to settling down, consider the responsible one.
Joseps Chenze, via Facebook.
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Maurice Matheka, a relationship counsellor answers:
Office romance is exciting, thrilling and extremely intoxicating but it is all based on psychological conditions that make you feel like you are in love.
The key ingredient is lust, which in itself is amazing, but I warn you against taking it any further because without your office setting the thrill will die especially for your male colleague.
He is infatuated by the idea of messing around and doing so with someone else’s partner fuels the thrill further.
If you were to be exclusive he would soon disappoint you with his lack of attention towards you.
Stick to the man who has been there for you. By your own admission you have stated that he is a good man.
Concentrate on nurturing your relationship. The unknown may seem sweet but it is not worth destroying a functional relationship.