JUST BRENDA: My husband infected me with HIV

What you need to know:

You should definitely tell him that he is positive, and you are as well, and you got it from him.
Please check the status of your child as well.
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Dear Brenda,

I left my marital home upon discovering that my husband had infected me with HIV. I have been faithful to this man. I feel so angry that I don’t even want to see him. I do not love him anymore. I’m thinking of leaving him for good and focus on raising our child. Please advise.

Hey,
I'm so sorry that this is how your marriage turned out. If I were you I would go back and win his trust and then find a way to take him for all he has – whether that is suing or public shaming, or an official divorce so you can get half his money. Or maybe take out an ad in the paper informing him and whomever he is sleeping with that he has HIV and everybody who he's been with should know. But since we're not trying to be crazy here, and you're not me, I suggest you tell your closest advisers – whether your sisters, siblings or parents – that you are positive because you're going to need a lot of support. HIV is not a death sentence, and you need someone to walk with you along this journey you're now on – for the sake of you and your child. Then, yes, you should definitely tell him that he is positive, and you are as well, and you got it from him. Please check the status of your child as well. Then you can move forward with your life, perhaps find support groups and professional counselling, and leave him in the past where he belongs.