In Summary
  • She sings that it is a type of love so much unlike the usual one; a type one cannot understand.
  • Well, I don’t think any parent can understand the type of bond that develops between them and their child. It is the bond that makes people quit jobs to look after their young.

Dear Jijee,

The song “Kuchi Kuchi” by J’odie is on my mind today.

The song reminds me of the many “kuchi kuchis” you have been telling me with lots of gestures. Whenever we are on the road and you see something interesting, your drill is to raise your hand towards it and utter some repetitive “chuckkh chuckkh” that makes me sometimes wonder if you are a reincarnation of someone from the Far East or Pingu cartoons.

Unlike J’odie, I don’t understand what your “kuchi kuchi” means but it is all fine. Some things are better left unsaid. Some words are better addressed to aliens and I hope the otherworldly beings find your messages interesting. And funny perhaps. And deep.

“Kuchi Kuchi” aside, there is “Sweet Love” by Wahu, a song she did to celebrate motherhood.

And it’s a feeling in my heart, a feeling in my soul/ Filling me up from my head to my toe/ Sio kama mapenzi ya kawaida; ni penzi siwezi kuelewa kabisa,” she sings.

She sings that it is a type of love so much unlike the usual one; a type one cannot understand. Well, I don’t think any parent can understand the type of bond that develops between them and their child. It is the bond that makes people quit jobs to look after their children. It makes parents take enormous risks to provide for their children.

Then there is that “Mockingbird” song by American rapper Eminem where he addresses his daughter Hailie about relationship problems he has with the child's mother and his then wife Kim Bassinger.

The song is about his on-and-off relationship with Kim, the girl’s mother, before they finally separated.  Hip-hop artistes are known to brag about being the most original gangsters (OGs), being the most macho and the most invincible, but this one was a remarkable softening.

Dear son, for Eminem to have themed his song around an address to his daughter, where he explains the reasons for disagreements, shows that the power of a child in softening the toughest of men and in holding together a tattered relationship is universal — only that in Eminem’s case the rift was so wide they could not stay together.

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