JUST BRENDA: Is my fiancé right for me?

I don't trust fiancé. And every now and then we have issues because I feel he is seeing other women. PHOTO | FILE | NATION MEDIA GROUP

What you need to know:

  • About two weeks after he proposed to me, I found a girl’s number in his pocket. I brushed it off.
  • A month later I found him outside at night talking to a woman. He apologised.
  • Now I don’t trust him.
  • Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? Please email: [email protected]

Hi Brenda,

I have been in a relationship with my man for three years. He came into my life when I was just leaving a bad relationship and he told me everything I wanted to hear – I was vulnerable.

After two years of dating, there was no sign of marriage.

But when I lost our baby, he proposed we got engaged. About two weeks later, I found a girl’s number in his pocket. I brushed it off. After a month we moved in together as we planned our wedding and traditional ceremonies. But I caught him outside at night with a woman. He apologised.

However, now I don’t trust him. And every now and then we have issues because I feel he is seeing other women. I don't know if I'm over thinking or this man is a danger to my life and future. I feel lost. Please help.

 

Hi,

I'm so sorry about this, but your man is lost and has been lost already.

The thing is, I think by the time you wrote this, you knew that this was true. You're simply writing to me for confirmation.

There are many red flags with this guy, sis, and you need to start seeing them for the clear colours they are waving in your face.

A phone number, an actual sighted girl, and your suspicions? That's all your intuition trying to smack you in the face with the truth.

Please listen to it before you get disappointed, sick, and disillusioned. He is indeed a danger to your life and your future. Move out.

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Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? Please email: [email protected]