In Summary
  • When she is angry, she gets so moody. She doesn’t argue, but she doesn’t talk either.
  • I am the type who shouts when I’m angry to let off steam.
  • After a disagreement, my girlfriend prefers to talk only after she has calmed down but I always want to fight there and then.
  • Do you have a problem to share with Brenda? Please email: lifeandstyle@ke.nationmedia.com

Hi Brenda,

My girlfriend and I have different personalities and sometimes I find it difficult to understand her.

Most of the time, she is quiet and calm. But when she is angry, she gets so moody the house gets cold, literary. She doesn’t argue, but she doesn’t talk either when she is angry at me. That scares me so much. I am the type who shouts when I’m angry to let off steam and this makes her unhappy and moody.

After a disagreement, my girlfriend prefers to talk only after she has calmed down but I always want to fight there and then and solve the issue at that moment. That’s how we did it in my family.

What can we do? We really love each other and we have talked about this difference in solving disagreements, but we still don’t know how to solve the situation.

That’s the only thing that worries me about our relationship because everything else seems to work out fine with both of us able to make a few compromises here and there.

 

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