Thanks so much for reading!
In short, your lady friend is dodgy. Though she is insecure about men, she is also hiding something from you.
And I definitely think it is a someone – because unless there is someone else in the picture, guilty people don't often delete the messages they receive from someone they actually like, right?
I don't think she's being completely honest about her having left her husband, or perhaps she has another lover who she is hiding you from.
And what's that weird Facebook behaviour? This woman doesn't want a life with you; she wants an internet romance during which she can use you for her ego and move on to the next.
My advice? Flee.
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