In Summary
  • If you love her, stand up for her and set a precedent for your marriage. If you cower before your father, and bend to his will, she will lose faith in you immediately.
  • If you are old enough to get married, then you are old enough to stand up to your father about who you can and cannot marry, because really, he is not the one marrying her.
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Hi Brenda,

I have a girlfriend who has a 3-year-old boy from a previous relationship. I am in love with her but the problem is my dad. There is no way he is going to let me marry a woman who has a child.

My question is, how do I tell her about my dad's stand and that there is no way we are going to get married? I really need to marry because am turning 30 this year.


You don’t have to get married at 30, or at any specific age for that matter. Marriage is the kind of club that can be joined at any time.

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