In Summary
  • The topic of pornography is a difficult one. Currently, it is estimated that the porn industry mints more than $10 billion per year. Over 200 million man hours are spent watching porn
  • The most important principle when treating a person or a relationship facing challenges with porn is that the individual or people involved should not be dismissed
  • Deranged childhood development, sexual abuse, relationship problems and many other reasons could be the cause of porn addiction

This was the fifth time John was calling in a span of two hours; it was clear he was anxious. “We have to work this out, me and you, and come up with some story which will save my marriage,” he explained.

I asked him to come to the clinic for a face-to-face discussion. During the calls, he had asked that I call his wife and tell her that I had prescribed some movies for him to watch as treatment for his mental stress, which was a lie.

“You know that is unethical, John,” I had explained.

John would not listen. “I have been caught and I see no way out other than creating a story to calm her down,” he explained on arrival at the clinic.

John’s wife had discovered links to pornographic websites in John’s computer. “But I also feel quite guilty after watching it, especially once I get sexual release,” he explained.

SEXUAL FREEDOM
The topic of pornography is a difficult one. Currently, it is estimated that the porn industry mints more than $10 billion per year. Over 200 million man hours are spent watching porn.

Pornography excites mostly men. This is because men are visually aroused, getting pleasure by watching sexual acts. Women, on the other hand, are more relational, getting pleasure by watching romance in the context of relationships.

This is why soap operas are quite popular with women, just as much as pornography is popular with men.

Sexual rights activists promote sexual freedom and believe that anything goes, as long as it does not interfere with other people’s rights.

They believe that people should be allowed to explore their sexuality, and that people have right to choose what is good for their full sexual enjoyment. For them, porn is therefore quite permissible.

Conservatives, on the other hand, believe that pornography corrupts the mind and leads to moral decadence, that good people can get poisoned by what they watch, and turn into sexual perverts and addicts.

They promote censorship to weed out porn as a way of saving humanity and promoting moral values.

Whatever your beliefs, if you are hooked on porn, there are principles of healthy sexuality that you should adhere to. First, if you have a sexual partner, reveal your sexual desires and practices to them.

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