In Summary
  • I am more of a sentimental hoarder. I have notes that were scribbled to me in primary school, jewellery from 10 years ago that no longer fit my style, and of course clothes that I am attached to.
  • I know that I am a spendthrift but I am learning to adjust to my soon-to-be new reality.
  • I am having to learn to say ‘no’ to many things.

I just got off the phone with my beau and he said he was decluttering.

He has this huge laundry basket that has lots of clothes and he is going to sort through them in three groups: what he will throw away, what he will keep and what he will mend.

I am impressed because I had been having this conversation with him for months, and now he is doing it all by myself. I think this is how parents feel after trying to get their child to do something over and over and they finally do it.

It got me thinking about decluttering my own life in the following areas.

Physical audit

I am a hoarder. I probably learned this from my parents, my mum especially. She keeps everything – from receipts to hair pieces to shoes she cannot wear anymore.

I am more of a sentimental hoarder. I have notes that were scribbled to me in primary school, jewellery from 10 years ago that no longer fit my style, and of course clothes that I am attached to.

My beau understands that his dress sense and my preference are not quite in sync. It goes both ways. I, lauded in my circles for my amazing dress sense, have to make compromises too.

For some women, their clothes are out of bounds. Honestly though if what I am wearing causes us not to enjoy our time together then it’s not worth it. I am not looking to impress anyone aside from him.

Plus, without realising, my fashion choices are leaning towards a more conservative mature style.

Baggage

Most of us are carrying some sort of baggage, whether we know it or not. I am working on offloading grudges, hang-ups, regrets, just all of it.

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